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Discussion in 'Open Bar!' started by Wan2BCreative, Jan 27, 2014.


  1. Mr.Micron

    Mr.Micron Royal pain in the air hose Admin

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    It is better to find out now than in five or ten years down the line. I am sorry she left you over a hobby but I am glad to see you coming back.
  2. Mr.Micron

    Mr.Micron Royal pain in the air hose Admin

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    That is the exact same thing my dad told me many many years ago. My mother-in law was the sweetest person I had ever met, Her daughter aka my wife is exactly the same So I did hear the words dad told me . 32 years and still happy:D
  3. MeeshellMP

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    Im sorry she left you, but if she used the forum as ammunition, then she was just looking for an excuse to get out. Sorry to sound blunt, but your better off. My sister in law is doing the same exact thing to my hubbs brother right now, picking at anything, to start a fight, so she has a legitimate reason to leave. Things will look up. And I hope you dont leave the forum, take some time off, but come back to us, we support you!!:applause:
  4. rab3rd

    rab3rd Elite Member! Elite Member!

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    Never, I mean NEVER let someone else dictate your happiness.... You and only you are responsible for YOUR happiness. As soon as you turn that over to someone else you will spend more time not being happy. It sucks that it couldnt work out but Id say she needed to be shown the door anyway. In the long run you will be better off. Now as others have said, go through the process, grieve and move on... I took me four years to come out the other side after 13 years of marriage but life is sooooo much better now...


    Best of luck and come back when it doesnt sting so much....

    Rob
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  5. CALz AyrWKz

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    I can't believe that if she really loved you, she would leave you because of airbrushing. And, using this forum as a reason to leave you is just plain stupid. I'm really very sorry that your relationship with her didn't work out the way you wanted, but, in my opinion as an outsider, the love wasn't there for you. Like Michele said, she was looking for an excuse to leave. I'm sorry that you feel that this family of artists could be the reason for the end of your relationship with her. We've done nothing but support you. We all know how much this hurts, but believe me you will move on and find the right person for you. My daughter just went through a divorce and she hasn't thrown away her friendships with the people who love her and support her. Think about it and when you're feeling better, come back to us. We will be here. :)
  6. Madbrush

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    It was all part of a devious plan, every one on this god forsaken forum has been working together with me to make your life an absolute misery, I must apologize, I honestly didn't know that she would take it all to heart like she did and actually walk out, I also apologize to the other members for using them like I did just to get at you, I hope they can forgive me.

    I shames me to have to admit I was simply jealous of your flawless dagger strokes and felt the need to make you pay, please don't blame the other members here, as I said I used them for my own sick means, it was all me, I mean it was me who forced you to sit on the internet 24 hours a day looking for better airbrushes and smoother paint and it was me who forced you to think that no relationship could ever work if you didn't have these great things.

    In all seriousness mate, if your looking for someone or something to blame, you should maybe buy yourself a mirror and spend a good long time staring into it, perhaps you could also try to understand your not really the only one the planet who has problems, hell, your definitely not the only one who brought them on themselves.

    I wish I could help you out more, but my schedule is too busy with all the beaten puppies, slaughtered wales and contaminated beaches I have to save on Face Book which I'm sure you understand is difficult enough while trying take my own medicine every day a the appropriate times.

    I actually feel quite silly having written all of this because you obviously will not be back to see it.
  7. m3ntalo

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    ...it is funny written though. :) Also when he doesn't read it. I didn't go through all postings but the first and his last already show that....how hard it might be...it is anyway probably better that way. One of the most bizarre topics I have seen on such a forum yet.

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    I'm very sorry, that is sad news. You started this thread to explain why you wouldn't be around, and presumably so she would see, and realise what you were prepared to give up for her. If she saw and still left, then I'm not sure anything you could have done would be enough.

    You both deserve to be happy, and I hope that is what the future brings. But for now, it is a hard time, and I think painting may help you get through it. It has certainly helped me in the past as i had a tendency to dwell on things and found it hard to stop going over things in my mind, re playing situations and wondering if I could have changed anything. ABing let me get my head out of that cycle, as it took all of my focus, even if just for a few hours, and helped me relax, and destress, which made dealing with my issues easier the rest of the time.

    We will be here to support you, so I hope you stay around. If this thread is too painful, maybe one of the mods could remove it for you, if that would make things easier. And if you wanted, I'm sure people would agree not to mention it again if that is what you need, and we could just help you focus on ABing, which we know would be helping you in all aspects, as well as improving your painting. If you do decide to stay, my inbox is always open if you want to chat, vent, or offload, so send a PM if it will help. I can't guarantee a sensible response, but I am a good listener.
  9. twood

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    Sorry that it took the direction it did. I think everyone here was hoping for more of a compromise, than a break up. Only you two know for sure.
    Just you starting a thread, to me was a good way to see if you were as wrong as you were told you were. It is cool to have different opinions and veiws from the many many many years of experience that is here.
    Good luck. We all know you will be around...lol
  10. SaxTecc05

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    Sounds to me she already took a firm grip on your nuts.....even before you sealed the deal (figure of speech) and for your future references you already get to taste what the rest of your life is going to be like ! Whenever there is something she wont be liking, she will tighten her grip on your nuts and twist them around till you're going to give in. But then again....some people are perfection-ally fine with being submissive and dominated all of there lives, just think about the moment you find a new thing you love to do or be active in other then her....and then feel the grip getting tight again ( can you feel the noxious feeling in your tummy ) and then for like 40 yrs long. Don't give up one thing you love to replace it by solely another which you also love, if she would have been a bit more understanding and be able to look ahead in the future for like 5 to 10 years....she would actually have been happy that you had something else to put your time in and get of her back....lol.
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    ABSOLUTELY RIGHT, rab3rd! No one should judge or determine anyone's happiness! And nobody should change for ANYONE else.

    For what it's worth:
    I lost a girlfriend whom I believed I would eventually marry and it completely broke my heart. She saw my interest in art and the female form, including Vargas and Elvgren style pin-ups and WWII bomber nose art, as a pornographic obsession. Three thing to know: 1) my art interests were always respectful of women, 2) her son had a past of pornography addiction and 3) she read 'Fifty Shades of Gray' and couldn't wait to see the movie with her friends. [What a hypocrite, eh?]
    Anyway, after suffering heartache for a long time, an old friend told me not to change what brings me joy and my interests. That advice brought comfort and solace.
    Oddly, two months ago, after more than 18 months of no contact, she started following me on Instagram. When I posted an airbrushed image I did of Sophia Loren in the famous 'Spider Dress' from the movie 'Divorce Italian Style' along with a Vespa, she abruptly stopped following me. She replied to an email afterward saying that she followed me on Instagram "by accident" (yeah, right) and told me she has no interest in any kind of relationship with me, even as a friend. Fine by me. I wasn't the one searching for anybody on Instagram.
    Anyway, infinitely happier now on my own and doing what I want - especially after seeing her true nature.
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    I know that I have not been on for a little while as I have not found any questions to ask or seen any posts that I am able to answer due to lack of knowledge in this hobby. But all I can add is that my wife and I have different hobbies and share in each others creations to the point of giving our views on them. This is a healthy relationship and has lasted 34 years so far. We spend every evening together but during the day I am normally in the shed making some creation. I said normally as I am still laid up but now able to get around much better to the point of being able to walk as far as the shed and spend 10 to 20 minutes in there before having to come and sit dowm.

    The point of this is that we compromise and encourage each other in our chosen hobby making comments as to whether we like the latest piece. This has worked for both of us and enjoy the days out when we choose to do so.
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    Thankfully my mrs supports me and encourages me to paint but I'm too lazy... hope he comes back some day.

    Lee
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